Shutting down is one of the ways most children respond to divorce news. After informing your kid(s) that you are dissolving the marriage, they may isolate themselves emotionally and physically, particularly when they are old enough to understand what’s happening.
So, how can you get your child to open up about the divorce:
Let them know they can talk to you about anything
Typically, your child will have questions upon learning you are getting a divorce. They may want to know why you are dissolving the marriage, where they will live, how they will move between two homes and if both parents still love them, among others.
However, they may not ask these questions if they believe they will be judged or get into trouble. Thus, actively inform your kid that they can ask anything and encourage them to express their feelings without the fear of being judged.
Acknowledge their feelings
It’s vital to help your child understand their feelings by showing relatability. For example, you can acknowledge how challenging it can be to move between two homes. When your child knows you understand their emotions, they may be more willing to talk to you.
Ask questions
What can you do if your child does not ask questions at all? You can ask them questions.
For example, “How do you feel about moving between two homes?”, “What do you think about the divorce?”, and so on.
Your kid’s responses can help you understand their emotions and, in turn, determine how you can help them. However, note that your child may not be ready to give you responses. So, give them time.
It can be devastating when your child goes silent when you tell them you are getting a divorce. The above-discussed tips and legal guidance can help you in such an instance.
