Creating a parenting time schedule is one of the most important tasks that co-parents need to tackle when they are drafting a broader custody plan. A good schedule helps children feel safe, loved and supported in both homes. It also helps parents know what to expect and is manageable for both of them.
If you and your ex are going your separate ways, know that there isn’t a single approach that works for all co-parents. Therefore, you’ll need to spend some time thinking about what is going to work for you, your ex and for your child simultaneously. When thinking about making a schedule, it’s important to focus on a few key priorities.
Setting expectations that are workable for everyone
First, think about what kind of arrangement is likely to work best for your child. Children need a routine they can count on. A steady plan helps them know where they will sleep, go to school and spend their time. Younger children may need shorter times away from each parent. Older kids may do better with longer stays in each home. Try to build a plan that fits your child’s age and unique needs.
Second, you’ll want to keep your schedule simple and clear. Both parents should be able to follow it without confusion. Pick regular days and times for parenting time and exchanges. Try to avoid too many changes or last-minute plans. A good schedule helps to prevent fights and misunderstandings when possible.
Finally, consider building in terms that will allow you and your ex to be flexible when this effort is reasonable and/or necessary. Life is not always predictable. A good parenting schedule allows for small changes when something unexpected happens. If both parents can communicate and work together, small problems generally become easier to solve.
